I don’t do Bareback

Hello thereI

I don’t usually comment on things I read about in forums about me but this vile post was brought to my attention recently is on a forum that caters for bareback punting. While I believe everyone has a choice to enter in to agreements consciously and if ladies choose to offer it that is there own personal choice. However it is not for me and I have made it very clear over the years I won’t participate in BB and anyone asking for it will immediately be on my black list. To be very clear I do not want to see anyone who is actively participating in BB sex.

The piece below really outraged me and also saddened. This is how the author boasts about his ability to use ‘lingual persuasion and the use of ethos, pathos and logos combined with a wallet fill of 20’s usually gets the job done’. The reason it outraged me is that this person is in effect not respecting and pushing boundaries of sex workers who are very sadly not skilled in up holding their boundaries and will succumb to pressure. It would be different if he was seeking services from someone offering BB, I would not be outraged by this as there is a conscious consensual agreement and no one is being coerced. Some of you may think that’s the issue of the women or men offering sex work, but I would disagree as in this job and I can speak to this, certain individuals will put on huge amounts of pressure if you let them and I can see how it would be easier to give in to them. We must remember that the act of coercion is a persecutor action and as such will create a victim. There are also many women and men doing this work for one reason or another who are very vulnerable. It angers me that this person boasts abut his ability to push boundaries and saddens me that there are sex workers out there who fall victim to this. It also highlights the importance of boundary and consent training for all sex workers and how to say and uphold your no and again it saddens me that not everyone has access to that.

This person clearly has no respect fo the people he is interacting with and is pursuing his own selfish sexual gratification without the thought or care for the other. In my mind this is not conscious behaviour and is extremely selfish behaviour not to mention it could be scarring and cause a long term mental and physical effect on the ladies he had coerced to do something that they did not want to in the first place.

At the end he comments that I am too plugged in for any of it, and he is correct I am way too switched on for any of this and not only will I uphold and maintain my boundaries and not be pushed with money or coercion I am also very able to see through the bullshit, selfishness and strategies some people use to get their needs met. It really amazes me that some people think they have the fee in their pocket then they have entitlement. It really does not work that way for me. Many times I have been offered extra money for BB sex or to work when I was off that’s usually the big one now days but I am in a position where that carries no weight and the fee I ask is what I charge and anyone offering more for things I don’t do or to see me when I am not working are going to make my every growing black list . I have come to realise that the more people I say no to and that make my black list then this opens up more space for the genuine and respectful people who I want to spend my time with. Its that old saying of let go of what no longer serves you and this creates space for what you want.

If there are any sex workers out there that would like to connect with me in regard to boundary and consent training my door is always open.

Kristina J Huddersfield Escort