Subspace
What is subspace and what it means to me as a Dominant and also as an Escort….
I have been meaning to blog about subspace for a while and have never quite got round to it, so here goes - this is my take on subspace. I have been there only once so I speak from very little experience of being there myself. I am more experienced at putting others into subspace having done so on a number of occasions so I can speak more about putting you in subspace than being in subspace.'
Subspace is a term coined within the domination scene as a way of describing the altered psychological state of a submissive.
First of all let me explain what subspace is for those that like me were unaware of it until a few years ago.
Subspace is a term coined within the domination scene as a way of describing the altered psychological state of a submissive. It is difficult to say exactly what it is and how it comes about. Each individual's reactions to BDSM play can be quite different and even the same individual's reactions will never be the same from session to session.
As I so often say - BDSM is not all about standing, whip in hand, and beating you till you are black and blue, or raising my voice in aggression. BDSM goes a lot deeper than that. It is the mental aspects of the scene that need to be considered by both the dominant and the submissive.
'As I so often say - BDSM is not all about standing with a whip in my hand and beating you till you are black and blue, or raising my voice in aggression'
While playing in a BDSM environment mental stimuli create positive or negative reactions – for a good BDSM session whether it be sensual, mild, mid range or hard domination - the submissive and the dominant both need to be in a certain mental state or headspace.
If you are in the right mind set there are more possibilities of entering the state of subspace. Subspace is an altered psychological state which some submissives achieve during very intense play. It is very difficult to categorise; submissives can enter different levels of subspace at different times with different stimuli. A submissive can stay in subspace for minutes, hours or even days after a session has ended, others may go in and out of subspace during a session.
Subspace is an altered psychological state which some submissives achieve during very intense play.
Subspace, in one sense, is very much like a hypnotic trance – as if the world disappears for a while - have you ever been totally lost in a book or a movie? Subspace is similar to that, the focus is on the physical sensations and the rest the whole world may just disappear, you experience no sense of time, no sense of pain, all pain becomes pleasure (or it did for me) my body separated from my mind in a form of dissociation.
To put it in simple terms - the experience of intense pain and or pleasure can trigger a nervous system wide response with the release of endorphins, enkephalins and epinephrine from different parts of the brain. The release of these chemicals are the body’s natural pain killers and in reality it is the body’s natural survival instincts kicking in. For me I call it that grey spot kicking in where the body and mind are separated and only the moment matters.
It is essentially important the the dominant fully understands subspace and the dangers of subspace otherwise the play can become uncontrolled which goes against the ethics of good domination.
So what are the signs to look for as you are pushed into subspace.
Incoherence, silence or inappropriate laughter, chatter
Changes in the reaction to physical stimulus
Glazed eyes (although I have found it better to push you into subspace with a blindfold on as it forces you into it).
A sense of disassociation between the body and mind
A dream like mental state
Feeling a natural high
Once I have a submissive in subspace I take on 100% responsibility for them and that is not something I take lightly
I always maintain that I take my responsibilities as a dominant very seriously, as once I have a submissive in subspace I take on 100% responsibility for them and that is not something I take lightly. If you trust me enough to let me put you there then I would be a fool if I did not fulfil my responsibilities properly. This is where the words integrity, respect and boundaries mean so much to me and the ethics of being a true dominant shine through as the need to protect and show compassion are justified.
Becuase subspace can impair rational thought and decision making skills it needs to be monitored carefully by the dominant. If a submissive goes too far into subspace they could injure themselves without knowing or ask for play that is dangerous to them. It is essentially important that the dominant fully understands subspace and the dangers of subspace otherwise the play can become uncontrolled which goes against the ethics of good domination.
I understand that subspace can be a frightening and overwhelming experience for new submissiives and not every one will go into subspace. In fact in a professional environment only a few have done it – whereas in my private environment it is more likely to happen because I have long term play friends and I have learnt over the years what is most likely to work on certain individuals.
Although I appreciate that not everyone will experience subspace, or even want to, I wanted to share some of the concepts of it with you all, in the hope that it gives you an insight into how seriously I take my responsibilities
It is always important to bring a submissive out of subspace in a gentle and controlled manner – I understand that learning to fly on a powerful natural high involves learning to land in a graceful way to preserve the flying experience.
After play it is possible for a submissive to drop – which happens as the chemicals that have produced the trance like play end and the submissive may feel out of body, detached from reality as the natural chemicals stop. The submissive may feel deep exhaustion, a sharp drop in temperature and disorientation.
Therefore a slow comedown from play and a period of aftercare for intense play sessions is recommended in order to allow the submissive to return to their formal mental state in a slow controlled manner.
Although I appreciate that not everyone will experience subspace, or even want to, I wanted to share some of the concepts of it with you all, in the hope that it gives you an insight into how seriously I take my responsibilities which go all the way through to my GFE special visitors as well. I will reiterate that trust respect and integrity mean everything to me and are always maintained whether you visit me in the capacity of an Escort or a Dominant.
I am a true dominant which does not mean I have a desire to control everybody around me and take over their lives; that to me is not true domination
I will also take the opportunity to say that I am a true dominant which does not mean I have a desire to control everybody around me and take over their lives; that to me is not true domination. It also does not mean I am aggressive or violent. What is does mean is that I have a strong desire to protect everyone around me and make sure they are all alright. I take a personal responsibility for you and your safety while you are with me and my credibility means everything to me whether you are a special visitor who likes a GFE or you are on the other end of the scale a special visitor who likes domination - the concepts of safety remain unchanged.
Kristina Yorkshire Escort xxx
