Subspace an altered state of consciousness…..
A re write of a blog from a few years ago….
I have been meaning to blog about subspace for a while and have never quite got round to it, so here goes this is my take on subspace. I have been there several times myself. I have also had the privilege of taking and holding space for others to drop into subspace.
First of all let me explain what subspace is for those that like me were unaware of it until a few years ago. (in my next blog I go into what happens in the body during subspace)
Subspace is a term coined within the domination scene as a way of describing the altered psychological state of consciousness of a submissive. it comes about as a reaction to BDSM play can be quite different person to person, even in a single persons reactions will never be the same from session to session.
As I so often raise the point that BDSM is not all about standing with a whip in my hand and beating you till you are black and blue, or raising my voice in aggression. BDSM goes a lot deeper than that with the mental aspects of the scene that need to be considered by the dominant and the submissive.
While playing in a BDSM environment mental stimulus allow you to have a positive or negative reactions – for good BDSM session weather it be sensual, mild, mid range or hard domination the submissive and the dominant both need to be in a certain mental state or headspace.
If you are in the right mind set you have more possibilities of entering the state of subspace. Subspace which some submissives achieve during very intense play. It is very difficult to categorise as submissives can enter different levels of subspace at different times with different stimuli. A submissive can stay in subspace for minutes, hours or even days after a session has ended, others may go in and out of subspace during a session.
Subspace in one sense is very much like a hypnotic trance – like you are been sucked in that the word disappears for a while, have you ever been totally lost in a book or a movie? Well its similar to that apart from its real and as the focus is on the physical sensations the whole world may just disappear, you know no sense of time, sense of pain, all pain becomes pleasure (or it did for me) my body separated from my mind in a form of dissociation. To put in simple terms the experience of intense pain and or pleasure can trigger a nervous wide response with the release of endorphins, and natural chemicals into the body. The release of these chemicals are the body’s natural pain killers and in reality it is the body’s natural survival instincts kicking in. For me I call it that grey spot kicking in where the body and mind are separated and only the moment matters.
So what are the signs to look for as you are pushed into subspace.
Incoherence, silence or inappropriate laughter, chatter. Changes in the reaction to physical stimulus Glazed eyes. Sense of disassociation between the body and mind , dream like mental state and feeling a natural high
I always maintain that I take my responsibilities as a dominant very seriously, as once I have a submissive in subspace I am taking on 100% responsibility for you and that’s not something I take lightly. If you trust me enough to let me put you there then I would only be a fool to not fulfil my responsibilities properly.. This is where the words integrity, respect and boundaries mean so much to me and the ethics of been a true dominant shine thorough as the need to protect and show compassion are justified.
As subspace can impair radical thought and decision making skills it needs to be monitored carefully by the dominant. If s submissive goes too far into subspace they could injure themselves without knowing or ask for play that is dangerous to them. It is essentially important the the dominant fully understands subspace and the dangers of subspace otherwise the play can become uncontrolled which goes against the ethics of good domination.
I understand that subspace can be a frightening and overwhelming experience for new submissiives and not every one will go into subspace. – In my private life of play it is more common as i am lucky to have long term play friends and I have learnt over the years what is more likely to work on certain individuals.
It is always important to bring a submissive out of subspace in a gentle controlled manner – I understand that learning to fly on a powerful natural high involves learning to land in a graceful way to preserve the flying experience.
After play it is possible for a submissive to drop – this basically happens as the chemicals that have produced the trance like play ends the submissive may feel out of body, detached from reality as the natural chemicals stop. The submissive may feel deep exhaustion, a sharp drop in temperature and disorientation.
Therefore a slow comedown from play and a period of aftercare for intense play sessions is recommended to allow the submissive to return to their formal mental state in a slow controlled manner.
Although I appreciate that not everyone will experience subspace, or even want to, I wanted to share some of the concepts of it with you all, in the hope that it gives you an insight into how much possibility is available to us in play.
I will reiterate the concept of trust respect and integrity mean everything to me and are always maintained weather you visit me in the capacity of an Escort or a dominant. I will also take the opportunity to say I am a natural dominant and that dos not mean I have a desire to control everybody around me and take over their lives, that to me is not true domination. It also does not mean I am aggressive or violent. What is does mean is that I have a strong desire to protect everyone around me and make sure they are all alright. I take a personal responsibility for you and your safety while you are with me and my credibility means everything to me and that is no matter if you are a special visitor who like GFE or on the other end of the scale a special visitor who likes domination the concepts of safety remain unchanged.
Blog to follow on the science of subspace…
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