What turns me on..
I often get asked what turns me on what gets you really going?
I know how much the wild unadulterated passion of a woman being turned on is such an alluring thought for you guys and also the other way around too. In fact seeing a woman lose herself in the grip of sexual passion is possibly the biggest turn on there is especially when you are the driver of that passion. I feel the same when I see men lose themselves and will share yes its an ego boost but I try to step away from that ad bring it back to their experience.
I could say things like, ‘licking my pussy, yes that turns me on’ or ‘feeling your hard cock inside me that turns me on’. As much as both are nice they are not part of my core erotic theme and peak erotic turn ons. I won’t say no to either of those but if a guy really wants to turn me on the first thing they need to do is step away from the need to have my pleasure please them and want to take from my erotic pleasure for their pleasure. A shift in focus to actively wanting to give and engage in listening to what I am asking for rather than just taking what is desired.
I know it’s a tough concept let me give you an example. I ask for my clit to be very gently stimulated and a touch that is soft and caressing. This means exactly that, by doing what I ask for that will turn me on. Trying to eat my pussy, bite me, be rough and aggressive when I have asked for soft and slow that’s a sure fire way to turn me off. It also works the other way round when I ask for rough being slow won’t work. The key is active communication with me asking for what I like and you listening and giving me what I ask for. The same works for your pleasure also, I recognise the importance of listening to what you want, what you like, what turns you on and give you just that.
So as a guide line some of the things that turn me on generally are:
Men who can speak to me as a human. I know to some of you this will seem strange, but if I was to give you my phone for a day you would surely come to realise there are plenty of guys out there that simply cannot do that. The fact of the matter is that even if I was quiet which is rare they will never make it to my door. A big turn on for me is mutual respect so sending me pictures of your cock to my phone really does turn me off, or telling me how hard you are going to fuck me, you know what no thanks. Making presumptions that another one. Now an engaged active conversation with respect, politeness and manners now you are talking that will spark my interest. A well put together email there’s another one that will spark my interest. I understand in the industry I am in that I am objectified and that’s ok I accept that, as long as it comes with some level of active respect and mutual conversation just to objectify me without these things in place really means I am not interested. I am very lucky and privileged to be able to select who I would like to spend time with and that in itself makes for a better time for you and for me which after all is what all this is about.
As you may or may not have figured out I am quite kinky and have 2 very big kinks that really get me going as long as everything else is right. The first is having your nails run over me down my back, up my neck, through my hair. I shiver at the thought and it is a sure fire way to hit my weak spots. I also like them run over my legs over my thighs and gently over my pussy. This is a great starting point it is the one thing that makes my nipples like bullets and tingle with desire and anticipation and my pussy wet.
The other and I know this is not for everyone, I actually like being bitten but unfortunately this leaves long lasting marks and that is not good. So I love the soles of my feet been bitten that in itself will make we quiver all over. I know great for all you foot worshippers out there.
One thing that I like is to be asked before you stick your finger up my bum, sometimes I am open for this others not so much and there is nothing more than a moment killer by just ramming your finger up my bum with force and me tensing up. I would never put my finger up any ones bum without first asking, while this can be nice when it is controlled and gentle with lube on it a dry finger up a bottom this really does not do it for me and no one else I know either. There are two things asking before you do really helps, firstly it shows you are thinking of how it feels for me and if its ok which is really important, secondly it shows I can trust you not to just dive on in there and that trust is something that makes me relax and turns me on more rather than being tense. Pain as much as it is a turn on in context and becomes intensity when it becomes out of context it is a turn off.
My big turn on is being in control, I love it! I love nothing more than having a man at my mercy with pre agreed boundaries of course and open communication. It does not necessary mean being dominant it is just as simple as taking the lead. This for me is such a turn on and an expression of my sexual liberty. In my experience I think men find this attractive as it gives you a sense of finally being able to let go and relax into our time together.
I am also a big sexual energy player, I know this concept is way out there but OMG it is the biggest turn on there is. Can you imagine having that warm tingly feeling you feel in your cock all over your body for a prolonged period of time rather than just a few seconds. Yes I know how to convert the turn on feeling in my pussy into full body orgasmic responses. This in itself does not always mean I am going to have a traditional pussy orgasm and cum what it does mean is I am going to have a full body orgasm and really be taken over by sensation which is my preference. I have pet dislike to being demanded I cum on request as this shows nothing for my preference and the orgasm is not for me it is for someone else this in itself is a big turn off. If on the other hand I am getting the drift that the orgasm is for me then this is different.
Let me give you an example:
“I want you to cum for me’. this is clearly and expression asking me to cum for someone elses pleasure and creates pressures in a sexual context to perform which creates anxiety to perform. It would be like me looking at your cock and saying I want you get to hard for me then make references to why you are not getting hard. I am most of you sure you can relate to the performance pressures and anxiety here.
‘Do you think you may like to cum?’ This in itself creates less pressure, sometimes I will and others I won’t but acceptance does not create performance related anxiety and pressures. Allowing what is there to be what it wants to be and giving it space is a way to relax and simply enjoy the erotic exchange between us without demands.
I also love to play with your sexual energy to bring you to new highs and new depths building intense orgasms if you are into experiencing this level of intensity, this turns me on and excites me no end.
I also love a man who can ask for what he wants this is also a big turn on a blog to follow on this.
I hope you get some insight into the things that work for me, it is as important to me that we have a great time as it is for you and I always welcome sensible questions, in fact I really enjoy sensible questions and would love more thought provoking sensible questions as sometimes its them questions that will make my blog posts.
Kisses Kristina Yorkshire Escort xx
