First time with a Mistress or Dominatrix
Welcome to: THE SESSION GUIDE What every guy should know before seeing a Dominatrix
WHAT IS A SESSION LIKE?
Every Dominatrix and every dungeon is different, but usually a session goes like this: Your Dominatrix will greet you at the door and walk you into a room or into her dungeon. She might bring you into an equipped dungeon room, and with the dim lighting, dark colours and wild dungeon furniture, the room might seem very scary and intimidating to a newbie, but eventually that room will be so familiar it will be like your own bedroom and it will be a sight of comfort, a sight of fun erotic memories. She might not bring you into a dungeon-themed room, but more of a basic room where she has a few toys.
Once in there, she will engage in polite conversation with you, going over your interests and limits again, or she might be very personable and even comical and crack jokes to ease your tension and make you smile. A good Dominatrix will know how to put you at ease. Once things are pretty much covered, she will get started. You will find she is not the scary super strict woman you were afraid to meet, but a very warm woman who will ease your fears and take things slow.
She might put on music, put her phone on silent, light a candle. Your phone should be off unless you are waiting for an important call. If you are, tell her the Dominitrix advance. She will ask you to undress. It all depends on your scene. She will slowly since you are new, work you into a scene. She will read your body language, ask questions and see how you are reacting to the things she is doing. If she is administering pain, she will start very very light and slowly build.
If I am seeing someone who is new and seems to be very nervous, I will discuss each thing I am doing with them as I am doing it. The instructional approach seems to make them feel a lot better. Once they are comfortable, I know I can keep going without it. I have made newbies feel so comfortable that we have been able to do scenes they thought they wouldn’t be able to do for a very long time, in their first session.
If you are not enjoying something, or can’t handle what she is doing, tell her. Vocalise it. She the Dominatrix will be happy you said something and will switch to something else. If you never say anything you will have a horrible time. Don’t be afraid to speak up.
HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN A SESSION IS OVER?
The Dominatrix will simply stop the session. She might save a certain activity for a finale. If you are in a trance, or subspace, she might let you relax for a while or give you aftercare. Some slaves want to masturbate at the end of their sessions because the session itself is a form of sex to them. Ask your Mistress what she does and doesn’t allow.
Mistress wanted to punish her foot slave so took off her boots and smothered his with her sweaty soles, the slave was in heaven, she even then made him masturbate over her smelly socks
