The world of femdom
Female Domination: A woman (or action in which a woman) dominates sexual interaction with her mate. See also dominatrix. This frequently (but not exclusively or absolutely) includes:
- Humiliation of the sub. (submissive, slave)
- Penetration of the sub. (incl. strap-ons, toys, etc).
- Bondage / restraint of the sub.
- Water Sports
A simple example is a submissive man (submissive in the Femdom sense)
This man feels a deep NEED to serve and please his Dominant partner. He is happiest kneeling at his Dominant's feet, or waiting on her--serving her drinks, preparing her food, etc. He looks forward to the times when she directs her attention to him, controlling him and teaching him how she wants him to behave.
This attitude just does not fit in with the images we get from TV, radio and the newspapers, and with what we hear from other people. That men should be strong and Dominate. But I can tell you it takes a strong man to submit. Most submissives I have known over the years are strong willed individuals and not the wimps the media portrays (it takes a strong man to stand tall, even when kneeling) If you are not in Femdom __this may seem anything from just plain weird to disgusting and humiliating, but when you look around at the people into __Femdom you find many men just like that. And these are happy men. Contented men. Often in happy, satisfying relationships with their dominant partners who lead normal well adjusted lives. These men discover their submissive natures, accept them and indulge and satisfy them... but not without difficulty at the start.
Why do I feel this way? And what sort of mental leap does it take to accept that flogging and whipping your masochistic partner, or clipping clothes pegs on his nipples, is an expression of love and tenderness rather than just plain brutality? It is generally not easy to accept any of these feelings. Maybe in a movie you've seen someone chained or tied to a tree and feel a sudden stirring, or a burning hunger inside yourself where you wish that it was you. Or maybe your fantasies are inspired by images of slaves attending to your every need. Maybe you are aroused and turned on by movies or stories of torture and you imagine yourself as the torturer ... or as the victim.
For some people that is as far as it goes-- vague ideas or hungers quickly suppressed because they aren't right . Other people go further and start exploring these desires, often secretly, and often with feelings of guilt. Be sure, if you do have these feelings, fantasies and desires, that you are not alone. There is a whole world of other BDSM/Femdom(ers) out there who share similar feelings to yours, and who have gone through much the same as you have. Maybe one of the best ways to handle accepting these feelings and learning what to do about them, is to talk to other people who have already been there and done that It can be an enormous help to know that there are others, with needs and desires just like yours, whose guidance and advice can help you find your feet. There are many people in the Femdom community--Dominants, submissives, sadists, masochists, bondage enthusiasts, etc. who are only too happy to talk to newcomers and offer advice. You can find them in chatrooms or forums
