Tools and Toys
Hi you slovenly slaves I have my tools and, toys we have clear consent, and we have every type of safety gear that might be needed. So, what now? How does a dominant put together fitting punishments for her slaves you will just have to visit me and I will decide on the punishment unless you request a specific punishment you enjoy
Surprise Isn't Your Friend
This might come as a shocker, but one thing that should not be on your mind is to surprise your playmate. I know, I know. I can hear you loud and clear: where’s the fun in that? Or, even more common, especially for people in the scene, "But my dominant did this unexpected thing and it was hot, hot, hot." Let me clarify: there is a big difference between a surprise that is off-the-books versus one that might be pulled from an unexpected page. Let me clarify further: let’s say you have negotiated a flogging followed by a caning. Then, between the flogging and the caning, the dom lights a candle and dribbles some hot wax on the submissive.
This is a bad surprise if the submissive did not indicate that this would be OK to do. Actually, the term "bad surprise" is the wrong way to put it - this borders on sexual assault .
However, if the submissive said that they would be open to this activity during the negotiation , and if the dom received permission before proceeding, then this is a good surprise. Get what I’m saying? You can be spontaneous only within the framework of things previously negotiated as well as receiving permission before acting. Safety, like consent, is the most important part of any scene.
_Mistress K: Your pain is my pleasure _
