Subspace question received from a reader
In regard to subspace when would you know you have been there, is it different for everyone and if you have truly been there would you be able to remember?
Is it dangerous to go there with the wring person?
Firstly thank you for a great question and very relevant as I have been writing about subspace recently.
I think my last blog may have explained a lot of this but I will answer the question anyhow as it’s a good question. Everyone is different and respond in different ways again on my last blog but here I am going to speak from my own experience.
I have subspaced several times in play when I have been experimenting with my trusted friends at workshops and privately. The first time I subspaced I can still remember it to this day, it was like a natural high and out of body experience but I was fully aware of what was happening through out. I felt like what ever touch I had it was pure pleasure even when the touch would have looked painful it was pleasure. I remember thinking my goodness this person literally could do anything to me right now and I could not stop it. So to answer the question you know you have been there when you have experienced that complete letting go and sinking into the experience. When you have been in a space where the body and mind are not connected and you are spaced out in a blissful way. When you are on a high like never before I cannot really compare it to drugs as I don’t have experience but I am told it is like drugs from them that know. I can still remember my subspace experiences today the brain has an uncanny knack of remembering things even when we are in an altered sate of consciousness.
I have very recently been in an altered state of consciousness not subspace but not too different through Tantric massage and also through breathwork (not asphyxiation, but breathing techniques of up regulating and down regulating the body). I remember vividly my experience on both occasions even though I was so far out of my body I had to touch myself to make sure I was still alive.
Very recently at a workshop evening I was experimenting and was in a great space and about to go into subspace but I stopped the play as I did not want to subspace in that environment, not because I didn’t feel safe just because in that moment I did not want to go there.
Is it dangerous to go into subspace with the wrong person?
Absolutely yes it is, for reasons in my last blog I will only ever go into subspace with someone I trust totally and is very experienced and has the same sort of background that I have. I have heard horror stories which I won’t repeat here as they truly are horrific, abusive and damaging mentally and physically of people being violated when they are in a state of subspace. This is one reason why boundaries and not changing the boundaries are important no matter how much the receiver says they want something while in an altered state of consciousness which they said they didn’t when they were fully aware. I use the same theory in Tantric also we agree what is within your limits at the beginning of a session and don’t deviate from them as the session progress. So for example if a female says she does not want internal genital touch and we get to genital touch and she asks for internal genital touch I won’t change that boundary as she is more than likely in an altered state of consciousness by then. If you were with the wrong person with the wring intentions then the risk is the pre negotiated boundaries could be violated which brings all sorts of problems later and can even go as far as prohibiting an individual from enjoying activates they did before.
The other issue is if the person holding the space, (top, dominant, giver) goes into panic and I have seen this happen it can also be damaging for the person in subspace because they will become confused and lose the feeling of being safe and well held. I had an experience where I had someone in a workshop go very deep into subspace and the lady who was working on the individual with me started to panic especially when their breath slowed and almost stopped. The importance of remaining calm and letting the receiver go safely on their own journey is essential, I just checked the receivers airways were clear and they still had a pulse, always helpful…. To bring the receiver out of it I gently rolled them over onto their side in the recovery position and waited for them to come round. It turned out the receiver had a thing about been underwater and not breathing and was a free diver. I wish I had known this beforehand as I could have done a number of things to take them deeper into this.
I hope this answers the questions and of course always to happy to answer anything further..
Kisses Kristina Yorkshire Escort xxx
